When a child feels powerless due to the traumatic experience they can feel angry and frustrated and scared. These feelings become deep within the child as emotional memories which can cause anger and aggression to be a response to any other feelings of powerless, shame or fear.
Obviously when a child is aggressive or volatile, this impacts their social life, school life and often brings about discipline and punishment which can further escalate their feelings of powerlessness, fear and shame. This can then increase the aggressive behaviour which then only adds to further unpleasant responses from adults which then leads to feelings of rejection, isolation and shame.
WHAT ARE THE MOST HELPFUL THINGS WE CAN DO?
Make sure that they know they are accepted, loved and safe
Try and help them feel helpful not powerless and scared
Don’t surprise, shame, control or intimidate them